A story that my family always tell people about me is the first time I ever swore. My Dad swore all the time, it is no exaggeration when I say that every second word he said in a sentence was ‘fuck’. I’m not ashamed to say that I learnt it from him. Every one of my siblings swear… a lot… and I think my Dad influenced us all.
When I was a toddler, around 3 years-old, I dropped some toys on the floor. My sister offered to help me pick them up but without hesitation, I pointed my finger and exclaimed, “You can piss off and fuck off an all”. My family froze in shock that I just swore for the first time but they all laughed it off for what it was.
To our family, swearing isn’t rude and it doesn’t have negative connotations unless it is explicitly intended that way. In that situation, I was being rude but not because I was swearing.
I’m a firm believer that almost ever swear word has no meaning, until we attach meaning ourselves. Swearing can be just as positive as it can be nasty – for me, swearing just enhances the sentence.
I swear to express how I feel in any situation, I use them for good and bad. In fact, we always call our son twat, tit, idiot, prick and whatever else. Joshua absolutely doesn’t mind! He understands that we mean no harm and he laughs along. In our family, swear words are often used to tell each other how much we love one another. It may not make any sense to most, but it does to us.
Ever since Joshua was little, he hasn’t been afraid of swearing or telling people to ‘bugger off’ but he will usually be saying it to be cheeky and to make you laugh. One of his favourite words is ‘bloody’, which we would never tell him off for.
The only time we have ever told him to not swear is when he started school, but not because it is wrong but because we don’t want him to be told off and make upset for no reason. He understands that others may have different ideas about swearing and says it’s silly, but he also understands why he shouldn’t swear at school.
They are just words with almost no meaning, so how can we be offended?